I live in a small town in Wisconsin and I committed the cardinal sin of converting from my religion and I show it daily. I am Muslim, married to a white European Muslim and wear a scarf on my head. I get along fairly well in town based on a few advantages: my stepfather is very well known and fairly influential around town, I also have a few powerful friends that stand by me, and I know how to play the game. Oh, and I am still white. That matters. So people are normally nice to my face. But in typical Wisconsin nice fashion, I know they judge me behind my back and it kept me back for years (back when I was trying to be a part of the community I live in). Now I have decided that I don’t care. For me, I can handle the snubbing from our new neighbors even after I brought them a homemade pie (which in hindsight was too good for them) and other small things. But my husband and I don’t have kids at home anymore and we don’t rely on the local economy for our living. If we did, I would probably feel differently. As it is, we have decided to move to my husband’s home country. There I am still an outsider, but at least I am with people that accept me and don’t set up a wall of silence and distrust to keep me out of their life. Being around this Midwest game of “nice" has exhausted me and frankly, in this Trump world now, people are not being as nice anymore.